Good gospel community helps you identify your spiritual gifts - we have grown in the gift of evangelism and have a heart for outsiders who don’t fit the church mold.
However, not long ago, I (Brown) was not a regular Sunday church attendee or one who served. Not too long ago, my wife, Becca, was trying to survive as a single mom of three. The point is God can change hearts. God can grow desires in you for the lost and your friends and family. You are not so far away that you can’t share the gospel with a loved one or be hospitable to a stranger or a person in need.
I was not born sharing the gospel nor had all the knowledge of the bible. I had to have discipline. I studied. I surrounded myself with believers that really believed and showed me the ropes.
So, if you ask me how I evangelize or looking for tips to share the gospel yourself, I will first answer in a different way that you may not be accustomed to, but I will answer your question.
1. Grow Your Affections for Jesus
First, just like I would answer overcoming addiction, habitual sins, loneliness, and wanting a desire to know and love God more, I would say to grow your affections for Jesus.
What does “grow your affections” mean?
Have you ever loved something so much that you couldn’t wait to do it again? Or saved money to buy that thing that made you happy? Then spent time doing the thing that brought you joy? That is the affections I am talking about.
What are the things that get you excited about Jesus? About God the Father?
And if you don’t know what those things are right now, do the next right thing. Do what the bible says are good spiritual practices/disciplines until your heart catches up.
Read the scriptures. John Piper says “the Bible is kindling [for the soul]” (Desiring God), “The law of the Lord is perfect, reviving the soul” (Psalm 19:7).
Talk to God. If you don’t know what to pray, pick a Psalm and use it as a guide.
Find community. Find a church small group. Find good Christians that will feed your stomach and your soul.
Listen to awesome songs about the beauty of God.
Now try to remember when you were saved. Try to remember times you loved God and couldn’t wait to go to church. What are those things that make you happy in God?
Do those things. Remember what the gospel is.
The gospel is not something that just saves non-Christians, it is everything. We never graduate from the gospel. It is the good news that Jesus saved sinners. Redeemer. For those who believe, we get what we do not deserve and Jesus died the death we should have. We get eternal life with God the Father!
If you never experienced a time like what David said, “Taste and see that the Lord is good” (Psalm 34:8) or what Paul said, “the peace of God, which surpasses all understanding” (Phil 4:8), then talk to God or talk to a believing friend. Ask God to forgive you of your sins. Tell Him that I deserve death but I repent and want to trust in Jesus, who died for my sins. Confess that Jesus is Lord and Savior.
2. Love Your Spouse
Second, take care of your family, especially your spouse.
Again, you may be asking, “I thought this was supposed to be about evangelism,” well, when I meditate on why Becca and I are so “good” at evangelism and hospitality, I think first about my love for Jesus and how that overflows to loving the souls of other, and then I think about how I can’t do any of this without my helpmate, my partner, my other-half that supports me, loves me, submits to my leadership.
Becca and I plan our weeks on Sunday. We pray and think about those in our spheres and who needs a touchpoint. A lot of times, we do this individually, which means we may go a few days or nights not seeing each other and the other spouse will have to help with the kids. Sometimes I may have to change my plans during the week to accommodate but if I was a jerk and just told my wife “This is what I am doing and you need to adapt,” that will not go well for my marriage or the people I am supposed to be ministering to.
I find it refreshing when my wife comes home to tell me how her new coffee talk went with a lady. We both find joy in ministering.
People see our life and all our kids and wonder how we do it. Well, we pursue the joy in the joy of others. God gets the glory and we get the joy.
The driving and being at all the places can get tiring but we are renewed by blessing others, by sharing the gospel, and/or listening to what someone needs to say. We are joy seekers.
We have a few things going for us. We have all teenagers and they can feed and entertain themselves. I can get a long night's sleep. We are done with the baby phase. So, you don’t have to fill your calendar. Get creative, work when the kids are asleep and one parent can watch them. Invite them over to your house for dinner. If you already have lunch at work, meet up with someone or think about a thought-provoking question to ask your co-worker.
And several times, I don’t have something planned, I am just available. Be sensitive to what the Spirit is doing.
There was one particular day that my wife and I were in Dallas, and we got back at 9pm exhausted. The wife and I were in our PJ’s and at 9:45pm, that friend in my neighborhood texted me and invited Becca and I over, that friend who is not a Christian and someone I’ve been trying to connect with. What were we to do? In this case, I told my wife, “We need to put clothes on and go to our neighbor’s.” And that’s what we did.
This is in the marriage section because it is not always a “yes.” But I have an understanding partner and a kingdom perspective. I’ll still get some sleep but if not, how great it is to worship with my friend for eternity in the perfect Rest.
3. Speak the Truth in Love
Third, how do you evangelize?
I can’t overemphasize that “for out of the abundance of the heart the mouth speaks” (Matt 12:34). You talk about what you treasure.
Then I would add, spend time with the lost. Your co-workers, your neighbors, those you see at your regular hangouts.
My Indian friend from one of my past jobs is a devout Hindu. He puts us to shame with his spiritual disciplines; however, he is trying to earn his salvation. He has invited me and my family multiple times to his house.
Why?
Because we are friends and we both care for each other.
How?
He likes to go on walks and talk. Do you know what I do when it is 107 degrees in the Texas summer and I have dress slacks and a long-sleeved shirt on? I go on a walk with my friend.
I listen to him and respond. I relate and I question. He openly talks about his beliefs, which opens the door for me to talk about my beliefs.
What if they are not like me? Some of you need to slow down and examine yourself. Just because someone drinks, into CBD, poor, or not an “Elite-O,” does not mean you should not share the gospel with them. Jesus came to save people like that.
“The Son of Man came eating and drinking, and they say, ‘Look at him! A glutton and a drunkard, a friend of tax collectors and sinners!’” (Matt 11:19).1 I want to be like Jesus.
Becca has literally ministered to prostitutes, swingers, adulterers, lesbians, poor people, divorced, and many more.
We take the attitude of Paul in 1 Corinthians 9:
22 To the weak I became weak, that I might win the weak. I have become all things to all people, that by all means I might save some. 23 I do it all for the sake of the gospel, that I may share with them in its blessings.
If you don’t know where to start, start with something fun. If you like to golf, invite your lost coworker to golf. If you have a great backyard, invite your neighbor and their family for a backyard cookout. Pray and see what the Lord does. You will be surprised and hopefully rejoicing after taking these steps.
So many times, I am just here as a friend, but I stay cognitive if conversations move toward Jesus. Feel the conviction in your heart, take a deep breath, and ask them if they know Jesus or to clarify their spiritual thought.
Last challenge I have for you, if you made the connection, follow through. If they contributed to your business, go support their business. If they invited you to their backyard cookout, invite them to watch football at your house. Send a text. Respond in a relatively appropriate time to their text. That goes a long way.
Conclusion
Love Jesus, love your spouse, love others. Keep it simple. Jesus said all the commandments can be summarized into two commandments: love God and love your neighbor (Matthew 22:36-40, Romans 13:9). Do life with your friends, neighbors, coworkers, and strangers. Everyone eats, invite them to eat one of the meals in the day.
One of my favorite ways to share the gospel is something called “The Romans Road to Salvation.” It is just a few verses to memorize and summarizes the call to salvation.2
“…for all have sinned and fall short of the glory of God…” Romans 3:23
“But God demonstrates His own love toward us, in that while we were still sinners, Christ died for us.” Romans 5:8
“For the wages of sin is death, but the gracious gift of God is eternal life in Christ Jesus our Lord.” Romans 6:23
“…that if you confess with your mouth Jesus as Lord, and believe in your heart that God raised Him from the dead, you will be saved…” Romans 10:9
God requires perfection but we have fallen short of the glory of God. We can’t make up that gap. But God loves us and sent Christ to die for us. The just Judge God, rightly punishes our sin (the wages is death). All we have to do to be saved is confess with our mouth that Jesus is Lord and believe in our hearts that God raised him from the dead.
Lastly, don’t forget the five B’s of sharing your testimony: be brief baby be brief. Relate, share what Jesus did for you, but just share the gospel. It is the Spirit who saves anyway, God has just chosen His church as His missionaries in this world. Love ya.
Soli Deo Gloria, Brown and Becca Nevels
Footnote:
1 Look also at Matthew 9:10 And as Jesus reclined at table in the house, behold, many tax collectors and sinners came and were reclining with Jesus and his disciples. 11 And when the Pharisees saw this, they said to his disciples, “Why does your teacher eat with tax collectors and sinners?” 12 But when he heard it, he said, “Those who are well have no need of a physician, but those who are sick.
And, Matthew 21:30 And he went to the other son and said the same. And he answered, ‘I go, sir,’ but did not go. 31 Which of the two did the will of his father?” They said, “The first.” Jesus said to them, “Truly, I say to you, the tax collectors and the prostitutes go into the kingdom of God before you. 32 For John came to you in the way of righteousness, and you did not believe him, but the tax collectors and the prostitutes believed him. And even when you saw it, you did not afterward change your minds and believe him.
2 https://www.forthegospel.org/read/the-romans-road-to-salvation